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Hey there and welcome to, I Can I Am I Will, the world’s number one podcast for confidence and self-empowerment. This is our introductory episode. It’s also our first episode in our 100 podcasts in 100 days series. So we’re kicking things off and I’m super excited. I love new beginnings.

My name is Lyndsey. I’m your confidence coach and together, here, we will discuss how you can stop limiting yourself so you can build confidence and achieve your goals. I am going to help you get mindset shifts, and learn positive self-talk. And you’ll learn practical skills and get actionable advice. All of this to help you build your confidence because you can do great things.

You are going to do the thing. You know? Like, the thing that you want to do but you haven’t been doing because you feel kind of stuck. The thing, do the thing.

And for introductory episode I wanted to go over what you can expect from this podcast and what you can expect from the 100 podcasts in 100 days. But first I figured we should just dive right in. And today I wanted to talk to you about a confidence building technique. So let’s go.

Today we’re going to talk about, I can, I am, I will. And you may be thinking “what is it? It’s the name of the podcast?” But it’s not only the name of the podcast, it’s an eye affirming statement. Or as I call them, because I’m super cool, iffirmations. And an information is going to help you to build your confidence. It’s going to stop that negative self-talk that tries to tell you that you can’t. That keeps you stuck. So you’re going to get unstuck and you’re going to do that thing. The things. All of the things. And an iffirmation is an affirmation and also an “I” statement.

So it’s an affirming “I” statement and there are different kinds of “I” statements. So the most popular “I” statement is an “I” feeling statement and that is when you say how you feel using the word “I” instead of placing blame or saying “you” in an argument.

For example, instead of saying “you were late,” You could say, “I feel a little upset and that you don’t want to be here because you came in after the service started.” And what that is supposed to do is supposed to open up the conversation and to not get the other person on the defense. You’re talking about your feelings so you can work through your feelings with the other person.

But that’s not an “I” affirming statement. and “I” affirming statement has to do with an identifying statement that is another kind of “I” statement. And identifying statements are statements with the word “I” in it in which you use to identify yourself or define yourself.

So it could be something like,

I’m not a morning person

I’m a coffee drinker.

I’m an introvert.

I’m an Eagles fan.

I can’t lose weight no matter what I do.

 I’m a slow reader.

I’m bad at math.

So any of these statements, any kind of statement, with an “I” in it is an identifying statement. And even if someone says something to you, say they say to you, “you’re jerk.” And you say back “I’m a jerk?” Even though you’re saying back what they said, that is still an identifying statement because you are identifying yourself.

And the reason why these are so powerful is because the identifying statements that we say about ourselves that we used to identify are like directions to our unconscious mind. So an Eagles fan, they were green, they root for the Eagles. They do not root for the Cowboys. And just like the Eagles fan would feel uncomfortable rooting for the Cowboys. A person who says that they cannot lose weight no matter what they do will not feel comfortable losing weight. Because they’re telling themselves. They are identifying themselves as a person who cannot lose weight no matter what they do. They have identified themselves ask that. They had told her unconscious that direction and the direction is to not lose weight no matter what they do.

So then they look for ways unconsciously to not lose weight. Because if they did lose weight then they would feel uncomfortable because they would have cognitive dissonance. They would feel uncomfortable and it does not feel good to be. You know, we all love to be comfortable y’all.

And also we need to be careful how we identify ourselves or how we consider what we identify ourselves as. So if someone says, “I’m an introvert,” because they are an introvert. But if they have a negative association or connotation with introversion because maybe they think extroversion is better or they heard that somewhere. Then they can be self-identifying as something that they think is negative. So then they’re looking at themselves in a negative light.

In order for us to build confidence we have to see ourselves in a positive light. And I’m not saying that you need to start saying, “I’m the best in the world, I’m super confident, no one’s better than me.” That is not. That’s delusion. That’s not an “I” affirming statement. An “I” affirming statement for the person who thinks that they can’t lose weight would be “I can lose weight. I am going to try. I will find something that works for me.”

Or an “I” affirming statement for an introvert who thinks that introversion is like negative or bad. They can say, “I can find positivity in being an introvert.” And let me tell you right now there’s a whole bunch any questions you let me know. And they can say, “I am just as good as an extraversion person even though I’m an introvert. Introverts and extraverts are just as good.” And then they can say “I will embrace my introverted tendencies an I will learn extraversion in places that I need to in order to achieve my goals.” So they can affirm themselves instead of looking at themselves negatively.

And that is a very powerful confidence building technique that works better with repetition. And that is why it’s I Can, I Am, I Will. This podcast, for the next 100 days, you are going to be continually hearing that. You are going to be getting the repetition.

So that’s what I wanted to do today. Is just give you that example, an example of things that we will be going over in these next 100 days. And I also just wanted to quickly touch upon kind of like my back story and how I got here with confidence. And really all I wanted to do was get unstuck. I just wanted to stop feeling like shit. I wanted to get unstuck and stop the unhelpful habits that were keeping me stuck. I wanted to be happy and feel more fulfilled. So I started doing yoga and meditation and journaling.

And I felt like everything was working but then it was fleeting. So I would go to the gym and I would create daily habits going to the gym and I felt great. But then even though I kept going to the gym I wasn’t feeling as great anymore. Even though I kept going. So then I added journaling and then that helped but then it kind of tapered off again. So then I started to look around and notice other people and their attitudes and how they spoke about themselves and how they establish boundaries and they weren’t people pleasers. And I notice all these different things that they did and I sort of really focusing on that and trying to get different perspectives. And then I created techniques to work on finding my fulfillment and happiness. I was a guinea pig to myself and I ended up building self-love and confidence.

I wasn’t even expecting that. I wasn’t even looking to build that self-love and confidence. I literally just wanted to feel better. And then I found self-love and confidence and that is the vehicle that I used in order to feel better. So now I want to teach other people. And I want to tell them the things that worked for me. And what didn’t really work for me so then you can help yourself with all of the experience and expertise that I have. And for the next 100 days I’m going to be touching on different topics to help give you a different perspective.

You can expect for each episode to be around 10 minutes long. I thought it would be nice like a little pep talk. Maybe just something short simple to the point and then I also did a lot of research with different podcasts. I notice what people said they liked and didn’t like they said they don’t like fluff or commercials. I totally get you there. I’m with you. And then they said that they like backstories because it helps it seem relatable. I love telling stories so we’re good there. Someone did comment that some people can talk too fast I am a fast talker so I’m working on slowing myself down. I will also have transcripts of the podcasts for people if they would prefer to read.

And with the end of each episode, I want to end with iffirmations. With empowerment statements. And you can say it with me, or you can just say it quietly in your head, or you can let me say it and just take it in. Are you ready?

“I can, I am, I will.”

Alright y’all in tomorrow’s episode we’re going to talk about the benefits of confidence. There are much likely way more benefits than you are thinking of and then we’re also going to get into what confidence is and what it is not. I hope you have a great rest of your day.